Chapter 3: Muhammad's Wives
After the death of Khadija, his wife of almost twenty years, and after proclaiming himself the Messenger of Allah, Muhammad unleashed his sexual desires and in a span of ten years he married fourteen wives in addition to his many concubines. Not one of them was mentioned in the Quran by name, for Islam has no regard for women. They were, however, mentioned in Muhammad's biography written by Ibn Hesham.
Before we mention the wives of Muhammad, we have to remember the words of the Quran concerning Muhammad.
And surely thou hast sublime morals (Surat Al-Qalam 68:4).
Ye have indeed in the Messenger of Allah an
excellent exemplar (Surat Al-Ahzab 33:21).
So, if Muhammad married all these wives without any sense of guilt, a good Muslim can marry four women without any sense of quilt. Muhammad is his excellent example.
A Washington Post Parade Magazine reporter printed a column entitled "Sex in Saudi Arabia." Here is that column.
This reporter rang up Dr. Seymour Gray in Brookline, Massachusetts, recently and asked the former Harvard Medical School professor if he really believed that the late King Ibn Saud, founder of modern-day Saudi Arabia, had married 300 women in his lifetime. Dr. Gray, 72, worked from 1975 to 1978 as physician in charge of the medical department at the King Faisal Specialist Hospital in Riyadh. He is the author of Beyond the Veil - The Adventures of an American Doctor in Saudi Arabia, a fascinating book published earlier in the year. "I don't know if Ibn Saud was married to precisely 300 women, " Gray replied, "but that approximate number, give or take a dozen or two, seems to be correct."
We then asked if it is true that Moslems by law and tradition are permitted to have only four wives - admittedly a far cry from 300.
"Under Islamic law," Gray explained, "a man can have no more than four wives at any one time. What some royal Saudis do is to divorce their oldest wives when they reach 35 or 40 and take younger ones. Divorce in Saudi Arabia is quick and simple. All the husband has to do is to announce three times, 'I divorce you,' and that's it."
Gray contends that many Saudi men are obsessed with sex because Islamic law segregates the sexes so strictly. Saudi women must wear veils and avoid the society of men. Adultery is punishable by death. Premarital sex is so taboo that later, after a man marries, he often has a compulsion to engage in sexual relations as frequently as he can manage. Gray writes in his book that many male Saudis consider themselves impotent if cannot indulge in sexual intercourse more than two or three times a day.
One of Gray's must illustrious patients was Prince Ibrahim Mugrin el-Kabir, who had fought alongside Ibn Saud early in the century. The prince complained of "decreasing sexual prowess" and explained that he had fathered no offspring for five years. He demanded improvement of his waning potency, but-at 90-age was against him. He soon died, leaving an estate valued at $32 billion, which was divided among his four wives, 23 sons and 11 daughters (Washington Post Parade Magazine, November 13, 1983, page 9).
These people and many more are just following Muhammad's excellent example.
There is a story related to every wife of Muhammad but space only allows us to mention the most interesting one.
Muhammad Married A Six Year Old Child [TOP]
Aisha, daughter of Abu-Bakr was a beautiful little girl. Muhammad married her when he was fifty three years old and she was only six years old. He had intercourse with her when she was nine years old. (Wives of the Prophet, pages 57-61).
This is a gross case of child abuse by the prophet of Islam.
When Muhammad married Aisha, he set an example for the Muslims. To this day older Muslim men marry much younger girls, following Muhammad's example.
The Egyptian weekly magazine Almussawar printed a letter sent to Ameenah Al-Saaeed, one of its editors, from a woman who was a teacher of languages in Egypt. The letter appeared in the September 6, 1991 issue. Here is a part of that letter:
Dear mother Ameenah Al-Saaeed:
My problem is. . . my husband came home with a friend who is about his age. He requested that our daughter "Marwa" who is nine years old bring tea to his friend. At night he told me with great joy that his friend agreed to marry "Marwa." His friend is fifty years old, "Marwa" is nine years old. When I objected, he told me that he is following the prophet Muhammad's example when he engaged Aisha when she was six years old and had sex with her when she was nine years old as is written in Sahih Al-Bukhary.
Muhammad Sobhi Alantabli, a high ranking police officer, sent a letter to the same editor, which was printed in Almussawar magazine in the December 20, 1991 issue. Here is a part of that letter:
The chief of a tribe invited me to attend his wedding. He was eight four years old and his bride was fourteen years old. "Why do you marry a girl who is much much younger than you?" I asked. "Because my other three wives became old, and when the woman gets old she will be like a rusty car. I mean a car covered by rust," he answered. The young bride's father was very happy because of that marriage.
Muhammad Married His Daughter-In-Law [TOP]
Zainab, daughter of Gahsh.
Dr. Aisha Abd-Alrahman cited in her book, Wives of the Prophets, page 130, what Al-Tabari, the great Muslim expositor, wrote concerning that marriage with Zainab:
Muhammad asked his wife Khadija to give him one of her slaves. He asked her to give him "Zaid." When Zaid's father came to pay a ransom and take him back, Zaid chose Muhammad over his father and family. Muhammad took Zaid to the chiefs of Quraysh and announced to them that he took Zaid to be his adopted son, and that Zaid was his heir, and that they were witnesses of that adoption. From that time on Zaid was called "Zaid son of Muhammad."
Zaid was one of the first persons who accepted Islam. When Zaid came of age to be married, Muhammad chose for him "Zainab," Muhammad's cousin. Zainab was a beautiful Hashemite woman of high rank, but Zaid was a slave freed by Muhammad. So Zainabe rejected Muhammad's proposal to marry Zaid. In order to achieve his purpose, and to convince Zainab to marry Zaid, a revelation was given to Muhammad from Allah.
It is not fitting for a believer, man or woman, when a matter has been decided by Allah and his Messenger (Muhammad), to have any option about their decision: If anyone disobeys Allah and his Messenger, he is indeed in a clearly wrong path. (Surat Al-Ahzab 33:36).
Facing that so called divine revelation, Zainab submitted to Muhammad's decision and married Zaid.
One day Muhammad went to visit Zaid. Zainab was in her room wearing her nightgown, the wind moving the drape hanging at the door. Muhammad saw his daughter-in-law and his heart was moved by her beauty. She asked him to come in. He refused and went talking to himself in a loud voice saying "Praise be Allah who changes hearts." When Zaid came home Zainab told him about Muhammad's visit and what he said. Zaid went to Muhammad and asked him "Shall I divorce Zainab?" "Retain her as your wife," Muhammad answered. After that day Zainab treated her husband, Zaid, harshly and with no respect. He could not take it any more, so he divorced her.
It was very difficult situation for Muhammad. He had a great desire for Zainab and he wanted to marry her, but she was his daughter-in-law.
Muhammad needed help and that help must come from his Allah. At last help came in a revelation brought by the spirit who appeared to him at the cave of Hira, in the following verses recorded in the Quran.
Behold! Thou didst say to one who had received the grace of Allah and thy favour: "Retain thou (in wedlock) thy wife, and fear Allah." But thou didst hide in thy heart that which Allah was about to make manifest: Thou didst fear people, but it is more fitting that thou shoulds fear Allah. Then when Zaid had dissolved (his marriage) with her we joined in marriage to thee: In order that (in future) there may be no difficulty to the believers in (the matter of) marriage with the wives of their adopted sons, when the latter have dissolved (their marriage) (Surat Al-Ahzab 33:37).
(The whole story is written in Wives of the Prophet, pages 127- 140.)
Muslim commentators tried very hard to justify that marriage but in vain. For Muhammad to marry his daughter-in-law was a disgrace.
Analysis of Muhammad's Marriage to His Daughter-in-Law [TOP]
First: Since that marriage was planned by Allah and Muhammad, we would rightly expect that the married couple couple would live happily ever after. Instead, that marriage turned out to be a very miserable marriage.
Second: Muhammad claimed that he counseled with Allah before they (he and Allah) made the decision that Zainab should marry Zaid. But we read in the pure word of God:
... who has known the mind of the Lord? or who
has become His counselor? (Romans 11:34 NKJ).
When Muhammad claimed that he counseled with Allah he made
himself equal to Allah.
Third: When Muhammad made the decision that Zainab should marry Zaid, so he could demonstrate that in Islam there is no difference between the rich and the poor, the slave and the free, he did not care care about Zainab's happiness and satisfaction. Muhammad's decision regarding that marriage turned into a failure.
Fourth: When Muhammad lusted after his daughter-in-law, he opened the door for any Muslim man to lust after the wife of his friend and marry her after she is divorced.
God's command says:
...Thou shalt not covet thy neightbour's wife. (Exodus 20:17)
let alone, your daughter-in-law.
Fifth: In light of Jesus' words, Muhammad is considered an adulterer, because he married a divorced woman.
Jesus Christ said:
Whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth
adultery (Matthew 5:32).
Sixth: Muhammad mocked Allah and used his name to satisfy his sinful desire when he claimed that Allah joined him in marriage to Zainab. God never commanded anything against His word. No wonder that his wife Aisha said to him when she knew that he married Zainab:
I see your Allah quickly grants you your desire.
In the name of Allah, Muhammad committed all his gross sins.
For Muhammad to claim that Allah joined him in marriage to Zainab is an insult to the word and holiness of God.
Let us record the rest of the list of Muhammad's wives:
- Suda, daughter of Zamma.
- Hafsa, daughter of Omar.
- Zainab, daughter of Khuzima.
- Om Salma, her name was Hind.
- Gawariah, daughter of Al-Harith.
- Safia, daughter of Huyay, a Jewess whose husband was killed with all the Jews whom Muhammad killed at Kheiber. She was seventeen years old and very beautiful.
- Om Habiba.
There are five other wives who are not mentioned by Ibn Hesham,
- Sharaaf, daughter of Khalifa.
- Al-Alia, daughter of Zabian.
- Wasna, daughter of Al-Naaman.
- Maria, the Egyptian Coptic Christian who was given to Muhammad by Al-Mockawkas, the ruler of the Coptics in Egypt. She bore Muhammad's son Ibrahim who died before he was two years old. Maria did not convert to Islam.
- Maimona, daughter of Harith.
Added to these fourteen wives were many concubines and many women who were taken captive during his battles.
Jesus Is The Best Example [TOP]
If Muhammad had come before Christ, we might have accepted this kind of polygamy. For King Solomon married 700 wives, and he had 300 concubines. Other patriarchs like Abraham and David married more than one wife. But none of them married more than one wife by God's command. In fact, the Bible says that king Solomon ended his life shamefully because of those wives and concubines (I Kings 11:1-10). The Bible declares that polygamy was always a cause of misery and disaster. But Muhammad claimed falsely that he married all those wives by Allah's command and for humanitarian and political reasons.
The fact is that Jesus Christ came six hundred years before Muhammad. He is the gold standard and his word is the absolute standard by which we measure any kind of behavior. This is what he said:
Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh?" So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate (Matthew 19:1-6 NKJ).
Moreover, we read in the New Testament:
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband (I Corinthians 7:2).
One woman for one man at one time, that is what God planned when he created Eve for Adam. That is what the Holy Bible, the infallible word of God, teaches. And that is the gold and absolute standard.
Muhammad violated the law of God and married all those women, claiming falsely that he married them by Allah's command. Even though he declares in his Quran that a Muslim can marry only four women at one time, he gave himself the privilege of marrying fourteen women demonstrating that he is above the law of Allah.
Moreover he says in his Quran that he can marry any woman who offers herself to him and this privilege is reserved for him only (Surat Al-Ahzab 33:50).
According to the Quran, marrying many women was a privilege for the Prophet of Islam.